By Sunny Simon

Intense frustration permeated my client’s voice. Cathy spent the past twelve weeks diligently working all angles of her job search. Things were finally starting to heat up. Phone screenings led to one-on-one and panel interviews. Agencies entered the picture and began pitching long term assignments. Why the angst? Cathy was in limbo. As she waited for an offer to materialize for the job she really wanted, she knew she must pursue a Plan B in case that company decided on another applicant. Cathy tired of playing the waiting game and just wanted to get back to work. I sympathized.

The extensive stretch in job search mode can be draining especially if unemployment was not by choice. This particular client was victim to a company downsizing. As the weeks fly by with no offers on the horizon, individuals often experience the job search blues. In my role as career counselor, I also act as head cheerleader and when needed offer a safe haven for a little venting.

The reality is, finding a new home for your talents is rarely a slam dunk. It takes time and significant effort, before you hear the words “congratulations and welcome to the team.” What is the best way to tough out a situation that often leaves you feeling out of control? If you’ve been laid off, begin with recognizing emotional aspects of job loss do occur. Feelings often range from shock, fear and anger to relief, acceptance and the desire to move forward.

Extensive job search activity must also be balanced with down time. Yes, you must dedicate hours of hard work to your search, but also make time to connect with family and friends. Get to the gym as often as possible. Build some fun time into your schedule. Sign up for volunteer work. Getting involved in a cause you care about puts a surge of satisfaction and self-worth into the equation.

As you move forward, be realistic. There will be setbacks. You may get edged out by another candidate when you thought an offer was forthcoming. Don’t let these setbacks derail you. Unemployment is reversible. Set realistic expectations. Know that there is a position out there with your name on it. Continue to push through the fear and frustration.

When the interviews start rolling in, you are in the home stretch. Shake off those job search blues. You will find the ideal company to leverage your career strengths. In turn, that organization will be delighted to welcome you on board.

Sunny Simon is the owner of Raise the Bar High Life and Career Coaching. More about Sunny at