By Aimee Mosco

“We achieve emotional independence through self-appreciation, which is not to say that we lose the desire to have relationships. Emotional independence gives us the freedom to view giving to and receiving love from others as a choice. It also recalibrates our expectations of others.” Daily Agreements, Guidelines & Intentions, by Aimee Mosco and Donald L. Ferguson, pg. 71

The greatest and most valuable gift you can give or receive is love. When love is pure and true it can never be bought. It must be generated from within the heart and shared as a gift.

Many of us are accustomed to giving this beautiful gift to others but giving it to ourselves is another story. We have become accustomed to seeking whatever it is we feel we need from outside sources, so we forget that the most treasured resource of all, love, is something we can give to ourselves.


We learned as children through messaging that giving to others was noble and made us “good”. Keeping for ourselves or giving to ourselves was considered selfish and that was undesirable. When this black and white thinking was reinforced with repetition, it created epic conflict within us. It kept us firmly rooted in ego and fear rather than aligned with the nature of inner Spirit. The inner Spirit knows that it is ok to fill your own reservoir with love for yourself. In fact, it is essential. We have much more love to give others when we fill our own voids with love first.

Apart from the fact that when we give everything we’ve got away without self-fortification, it leaves us depleted and unable to give of ourselves fully, we knock ourselves out of alignment with inner knowing. This conflict can keep us stuck cycling in old patterns and block us from being able to experience our highest levels of joy in life.

When our souls are in charge and the fearful ego sits up on a shelf, our most natural state is one that is brimming with love from the inside out. In this space we are most easily able to release the expectation that others must fill our voids. This surrender to the love we organically and automatically generate from within is a gift to self, and one that will never leave us longing or lacking. We become whole, strong, full, and emotionally independent. And this is when we can give most perfectly and without conditions to others.

In my pursuit to help you unlock your divine memories, I invite you to join my Facebook group SACRED Light Code Keys. Go to and bring your light to this supportive community.

Aimee Mosco is an Author, Intuitive Channel, Spiritual Teacher and Co-Founder of Intentional Healing Systems, LLC. Aimee’s desire to help others inspired her first book “Gratitude + Forgiveness x (LOVE) = Happiness”. Aimee serves as Vice Chair to the World Game Changers Board of Directors, a charitable CIC based in the UK. Find Aimee on her website at