By Aimee Mosco

“At the crossroads of change it becomes necessary to examine our emotions attached to our system of valuation and dissect the elements associated with our conclusions about an event, person, thought, or action as a positive or negative influence on us.” Gratitude +Forgiveness x (Love) = Happiness by Aimee Mosco and Donald Ferguson, page 49.

Have you ever cast a judgment at someone or attached a label in the heat of the moment that you later discovered was unwarranted? Most of us have because it is a perfectly human thing to do. While common, it is unfortunate and harmful to both the judged and to yourself.

It is obvious why judging in error can be hurtful to the person on the receiving end, but it is important to understand that it can be equally harmful to you when you are doing the judging. Here’s why:


Your soul mission is to grow. It is your responsibility to seize every growth opportunity in this finite life, just as it is the responsibility of every other person to do the same for themselves. Bountiful soul growth comes from the discovery of new perspectives. There is no room for discovery when you exercise judgment or point a finger in blame at another person. You shift the focus away from your own development when you expend energy criticizing others. Furthermore, you give your power away when you allow the actions or words of another person to influence you in any way that brings you down.

Your emotions tell an important story. When you generate an emotional response based in fear, anger, resentment, disappointment, or something similar to a person or event, these emotions are cues for you to shift your focus and look inward. They are telling you that something within you needs to be healed so you can connect with a higher, more divine perspective.

You have freewill, so you can choose to stay in the judgment zone and cycle with fear-based emotions that delivered you there, or you can look inward to integrate a new perspective and the growth that comes with it. If you choose the latter, you may consider expressing the intent to understand the following:

What must heal within you to feel safe?

What lesson can be learned from the experience?

How can you see the situation from the highest possible perspective?

After you have dedicated some time to yourself to explore the deeper meaning and growth opportunity of the trigger, revisit your initial judgments to see what has changed.

In my pursuit to help human beings take full responsibility for their soul growth, I invite you to join my Telegram group DIVINE PURPOSE Discussions. Go to and enjoy the light of this supportive community.

Aimee Mosco is an Author, Intuitive Channel, Spiritual Teacher and Co-Founder of Intentional Healing Systems, LLC. Aimee’s desire to help others inspired her first book “Gratitude + Forgiveness x (LOVE) = Happiness”. Aimee serves as a leadership advisor to the World Game Changers Board of Directors, a charitable CIC based in the UK. Find Aimee’s Channeling page on Facebook with @ihsaimeemosco or visit Aimee at