Dear Jenny,

I have read many of your articles. You seem to give pretty good advice and you are entertaining. But let me ask you this, what if you are tired of looking, always hoping, and most of all, always being happy. People always tell you that the most important thing in life is to be happy. People always tell you, that you will meet the love of your life and your soulmate is out there looking for you, just as you are looking for them. But the truth is, you are a middle-aged man and alone and frankly, very lonely. While you are happy practically all of the time, once in a while, you just feel tired of the whole thing. What do you do then? In short, what if you know the answer is to always be happy, good things come to happy people, but you are sick and tired of being happy, because honestly, no good things have come to you!

Does this make me sound bitter? I am truly not bitter, just a little pissed off.




Hi Stephan,

No, this doesn’t make you sound bitter, just very honest. I appreciate you writing in. You also sound a little bit disenchanted. I hope that I can ease the frustration some. It is true that people are always talking about finding your happy place. You know why? Because when you find your happy place, all your dreams become possible. But until then, they really can’t be achieved, if they are, then they are usually lost soon after.

When a person says they are happy, they very well might be, but they might have a part of their life they feel is incomplete, in your case it’s a happily ever after relationship. So when you have something inside you that isn’t complete, you’re not complete. A lot of times we do a great job hiding it or arguing for our own limitations. But it is still there. When we have something inside of us that is buried, no matter how deep, true happiness cannot be found.


In order to want something and not yet have it, but still be truly happy, one must set the intention of achieving what is wanted. And after the intention is set, don’t be attached to the outcome. Easier said than done with? Just know what you want and intend for it and then release it. Once you really release it and move on to other things, by the law of attraction, it’ll come to you. But if you continue to want it, you will drive it away. Most importantly, don’t forget about having faith. So many of us believe more in what is tangible and what we can see with our eyes, than in the law of attraction and what we can manifest with our feelings.

It is much better to be very happy and find another very happy person and live happily ever after, than it is to be bummed out and meet another bummed out person and hope that together you two will find happiness. Because if you are a really happy person, you will not attract a sad, bummed out person, it just doesn’t work that way. It is so much easier to already be happy and then attract someone who is equally as happy and then live happily ever after together.

I hope this helps. Good luck and follow your happy!

❤️ Namaste, Jenny

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