By Bronwyn Ison

You are not alone when you candidly admit to a broken relationship with a family member, friend, spouse, or potential life-long partner.  We’ve all been wounded at one time or another.  It is possible you have had numerous flawed relationships during your life.  There continues to be a growing number of unsuccessful partnerships.  Most often the relationship concludes prematurely. As a mature adult and someone who has had close associations not come to fruition as expected, I am here to share a few tips on how to improve your future engagements with others.

Emotional Intelligence as defined by Wikipedia, Emotional intelligence (EI) or emotional quotient (EQ) is the capacity of individuals to recognize their own, and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship.  In fact, relationships are comprised of two imperfect people.   A key ingredient is for both people to be cognizant of their own emotions, how they control their tempers, and how well one expresses their feelings.  Obviously this necessitates both parties be willing participants to communicate in a healthy way.  For a relationship to prosper each person must respect and listen to the other persons needs, wants, and desires.  Step two, each person must communicate to their partner they have heard and understand them.  Step three, make actionable their request the best your ability.  Adopting these three helpful hints will commence a journey of cultivating healthy interactions.


Emotional intelligence is a key ingredient to personal and partnering success.  Identifying with your emotions and the emotions of those around can catapult  you to great successes.  Remain in touch with yourself. You will prosper in you personal and relational skills.

There are five components you will need to nurture your EI (emotional intelligence).

  1. Self-Awareness- If you have exceptional self-awareness, you are likely to have a high IE. You understand your emotions and you don’t allow them to rule you. You are confident and don’t allow yourself to venture out of control.  You are also willing to look at yourself and recognize your weaknesses and improve upon them
  2. Self-Regulation- This is the ability to control your emotions and impulses. You do not anger quickly, are rarely jealous, and do not make careless decisions. You are thoughtful, comfortable with change, and conduct yourself with integrity.
  3. Motivated- You’re highly motivated. You are willing to work towards a goal and defer immediate results for long-term success. Plus, you love a challenge.
  4. Empathy- This is the second most important element of EI. If you lack this characteristic it is likely you will suffer with EI.  Thus, you cannot identify or care about others feelings, viewpoints, needs, or wants.
  5. Social Skills- You have exceptional social skills and are a team player. Plus, you love to allow others to shine first rather than yourself. You are a master at maintaining relationships.

The great news, you can improve any of the areas needing a bit more nurturing. A healthy EI can be a key success to your LIFE.

Bronwyn Ison is the owner of Evolve Yoga. 760.564.YOGA (9642)