By Bronwyn Ison

Recently I was asked, “What is it that you want in a friendship or relationship?” I pondered for a moment and then asked, “How much time do you have?” I’m being facetious. I proceeded to list my wants and needs. Fortunately, they were well received and my friend concurred and believes my list is rational.

In friendships and relationships with the same or opposite sex, we have experienced our share of disappointments. Yet, I am grateful for the lessons. When relationships don’t materialize the way we had hoped, I believe there is always a reason. Thus hoping for something bigger and better. Reflecting upon previous friendships, working relationships, or intimate relationships, when one has not come to fruition as planned I know it has been beneficial. How do I arrive at this conclusion? Simple… I feel peace and trust all is well.

This compels me to share my needs and wants in any relationship. We’ve all been duped, had our hearts trampled on, been deceived, the list can go on and on. It comes down to trust. When you or someone violates a trust you might as well say farewell to your relationship. However, there is forgiveness and not all is lost. When the trust between two people is compromised so is the peace. It is challenging to have peace regarding your surroundings when you cannot trust the people or person in your circle.

We are imperfect beings. As humans we make mistakes. Often, people do not think before they act. If you desire to achieve healthy relations with the people in your life it is important to value them as a person. I encourage my daughters to think before they act. The old adage, “do unto other as you want them to do unto you.” I promote and encourage my daughters to be empathetic. Place yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Simple communication with your friend or significant other will help you achieve healthy relationships. You will be enabled to maintain trust, which will lead to a peaceful and harmonious relationship. It also comes down to respecting the people in your life. A loss of respect for someone can lead to poor decision making in your relationships.

Strive to achieve healthy communicative relationships in your life. You will have a greater peace and trust of yourself.

Bronwyn Ison is the owner of Evolve Yoga. 760.564.YOGA